What do you do? Do you:
- Try to find others who have faced a similar situation?
- Search the web or your social networks to find resources?
Then, when you find people or content to help, what do you do? Do you look for more, then what?
Do you ever ask yourself, “what do I think or feel?”
The age of instant access to information can create an over-reliance on what others think. We can over rely on the tools and technologies available to us so that they become a limitation rather than being helpful.
We have all the answers at our fingertips through our phones, tablets and computers. Someone has done a study about it, someone has written a book about this exact topic, someone has a Ph.D in this topic.
How could you not feel a sense of seeking for the right answer?
It’s always there waiting for you. We look for answers in so many places in the hopes of finding the “right answer.” Is there a right answer? Who’s to say that it’s right or wrong? The constant seeking to find from others, without reflecting on your own thoughts, will get in the way of your grow and learning.
Aren’t you exhausted?
Having instant access to people and information is powerful. I connect every day. I seek and connect with others to help me grow and I share my thoughts to help others.
This should be an input into your thinking process, not a substitute for your thinking process. Other people’s thinking can greatly help you or limit you depending on your reliance of this input.
Reading, after a certain age, diverts the mind too much from its creative pursuits. Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking ~Albert Einstein
How much time are you spending with yourself?
Sounds funny considering that you’re with yourself all day. You may not even realize how much time you’re spending outside yourself. You are the foundation for all of your experiences so you owe it to yourself to check in every day.
To help think for yourself in this connected world, try:
Making an appointment with yourself every day
Try to do this when you have energy. I do this first thing in the morning before anyone is awake. Some like to do this late at night. It doesn’t matter when as long as you’re setting aside this time for yourself.
Disconnecting from the internet
When it’s time for tap into your thoughts, literally pull the plug or disconnect from wireless. If you’ve never done this, give it a try. It may cause a sudden panic, but you’ll get over it and will begin to create thoughts you didn’t know you had.
Getting up and moving
Go for a short walk or exercise. This helps break the cycle and can help you re-center on your thoughts and feelings. Plus, it’s good for you, you’ll feel better.
Creating something new
Create something that doesn’t exist. If it doesn’t exist, then you have to tap into “you” to generate the thoughts for a new creation. It could be anything (e.g., a drawing, a graphic, a letter, etc). You get to decide. You will learn when you create.
Recognizing that this could be scary
If you’ve been “out there” for a while, it could be a little nerve racking to rely on your own thoughts. Trust yourself, the more time you practice, the more comfortable you’ll be.
What do you do to think for yourself?